“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.”
There’s always a plenty of people who think that they know better what you should be doing with your life. However, when you are at my stage where you have been making your own decisions and following your own heart from very early years, those suggestions and advices sound like insult if not stupid even if they are from well-respected and prominent members of the society. While giving input is not all that bad, it is vain and childish to think that just because you are older or popular, I should be listening to you. While I do not mean to ignore anybody, I chose very carefully whom to listen to. I am very cautious about taking advice from my well-meaning friends and relatives that would like to see my happiness but get envious when my car shines better than theirs.
I say this not in an arrogant or self-righteous way but to remind you the fact that there is a guidance system in each of us which knows and speaks to us only the truth. More we ignore this voice and follow the voices of the world, more we will fail and be miserable. This humble but strong voice tells me to do things sometimes that are against my emotions, feelings and sentiments but it has never failed me. I have thus learned to trust myself above anybody else and follow my heart instead of following norms, values, cultures and religions that society imposes from the time of our birth.
I often meet some folks that do not have guts or passion to stand up for a cause and laugh at anybody that’s trying to make something happen. This often happens within family members when one brother is drinking beer and following a girl all day while another is working hard on his passion all day and night. This guy wouldn’t want to be a part of his hard working brother’s team but when he’s succeeding, he gets jealous and tries to do everything to pull his leg. This is just an example but stuff like this happen in every area of the society and the one’s getting ahead are often distracted and ridiculed by those who are going nowhere 90 miles per hour.
Especially the Nepalese community has a tendency to deride, insult and piss-off people and organizations that come up with noble ideas and cultures. No wonder successes like Prabal Gurung, Kiran Chetry and Dilli Bhatta want to stay away from this community as much as possible. These uprising stars understand that they must insulate themselves from people that will bring them down with their stinking thinking. Folks with decayed brain do not understand that institutions that we volubly commend and have been around for years are mere go-carts and baubles and can be replaced by better organizations. They do not realize the unlimited potential that resides in them and they themselves have the power to create a world of paradise let alone an organization or event. They find it easy to trust somebody that has a stamp of an organization or society than themselves. What a pity!
I am all for separating myself from all the people, event, organizations, society, community or nation that is an obstacle to my dreams. You might call it selfish but I call it being true to myself. You might call it anti-Nepali, I call it pro-Universe. I am against anything that would limit my being all that I can be or should be. You might say that I am giving my friends pain, well, I can’t let their sentiment stop me from fulfilling my destiny. When I am dying, I would feel very bad if I hadn’t done or become what I am supposed to be just because of some people.
I am more eager to please the almighty father in heaven that created me and the whole world than these so-called friends or families that would be ready to leave me any day if only they got a better deal on the other side of the bargain. So, if that’s what the human relationships in all the areas of life are all about, why even pity over them? Why not realize the truth and just accept it? Those who are for me or with me are my friends. They are my brothers, they are my sisters, they are my fathers and they are my mothers. Why let the tie of relationships deceive you? Why not be true to yourself and true to others? Let the deceivers be with the deceivers. Let the broken be with the broken. I am not going to sit down with them and weep. Instead, I will tell them the truth, get up and let them do what they want with it. You might think, that’s very rude but, such meetings would be far better and productive than the words of sympathy poured for years.
So, let the truth be truth and the lie be the lie. Let us not try to make a lie into a truth. Let us do our best to be genuine in everything we do and say. Your genuine actions will explain it, your conformity explains nothing. Do not expect me to stand up for your lies just because I had few coffees and lunches with you. I think I will be a better friend telling you the truth than lying to you. Do not expect me to follow the norms of the society and defend your wrong-doings in the name of relations. I am done away with such life and I hope you are too.